To have or not to have, that is the question! Believe me when I say, that really is a big question mark for me. As I weigh out the pros and cons as Dexter did, I seem to come up with a similar list,
Cons: Annoying, troublesome, 24/7 full attention.... the list is endless.
Pros: They're cute??
Before I go further, let me make myself clear by saying that this is about how I feel about the subject and I speak for myself and myself only.
If you love kids, that's a different story altogether. I'm talking about people like me, people who don't have the urge for it and simply loving the comfortable life as it is. Why is it a must to have kids especially when you've been married for as long as I have? Why is it a necessity to have children? To me this is a paradox.
There are so many people out there that can't wait to have kids, I'm talking about most of my female friends. And when they do have some, I'm ever so thrilled for them because they've always wanted children and their wish came true. I, on the other hand, don't ever remember saying that I want children!
I honestly cannot convince myself otherwise! Just the other day we had some neighbours over for dinner and as we were half way through dinner, one kid puked all over the dinner table! Not only did I feel grossed out, I lost my appetite for a meal long anticipated. Everyone at that table looked at me and said, "We're not giving you a good image of parenthood and kids now are we?" I did what I do best at such situations, smile.
I constantly get bombarded by my mother(naturally!) and girlfriends who've just turned into mothers on how I should have a child now, right away, tout de suite! And I'm thinking, this concerns no one but my husband and I and while both of us are as happy and content as newly weds(even after 4 years of marriage), we don't want change, we like it just as we are, period.
Maybe the fact that I teach and deal with children every single day in the week is enough for me to not want to deal with them at home too.
I'll admit this much, there are some kids that are nice and pleasant to be around. But let's face it, that's just a small fraction in our present 21st century where children too, like adults, have evolved. We're all spoiled with choice hence we're spoiled!
Since I'm unable to convince myself to desire kids and neither can anyone else I know, no matter how hard they try, I've decided Mr. Miracle do his fair bit and change my mind.
